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053 - Lessons Learned Over 18 Years of Marriage

Misty Rodda makes her way back onto the show this time to share some of the lessons we have learned over 18 years of marriage. She was last on the podcast in episode 005 to share lessons for 20-something, pastor's wives. That was a great episode and one of the most popular. We have a lot of fun in this episode and probably ramble a little too much, but it was still fun. This is a great episode as we approach Valentine's Day 2018.

Highlights |

  1. Lesson numero uno gentleman is that she is better than you.
  2. Lesson #1: Your differences are a positive, not a negative.
  3. Lesson #2: Marriage actually requires sacrifice and commitment. You actually can't think about yourself all the time and expect it to work.
  4. Lesson #3: Clear expectations are vitally important.
  5. There are seasons in life when one spouse will have to carry more of the load than the other spouse. Realize it's a season and offer grace when your spouse can't offer 100%.
  6. Lesson #4: Your marriage is not expendable. Stop basing it on your feelings.
  7. It is pure arrogance to say you know better than God how your marriage should work.
  8. When you're not "feeling it" in marriage, it's time to: get over yourself, admit you don't have it all together, get some counseling, water the grass in your own backyard and go home and love your spouse.
  9. Lesson #5: Don't overcomplicate the idea of dating your spouse.
  10. Ask the questions: how can I pray for you and what's one thing I can do for you today?
  11. Your spouse is NOT the enemy. You are in a spiritual battle for your marriage.

Links |

  1. Voddie Baucham - Go home and love your wife
  2. Enneagram - Explore your type
  3. The 5 Love Languages - https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1517501481&sr=8-3&keywords=5+love+languages
  4. Misty Rodda - Twitter
  5. Misty Rodda - Facebook
  6. Misty Rodda Photography - Website

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044 - Pastor Fit

Pastors and church leaders are all in on conversations about leadership, vision casting, discipleship, multiplication and church growth. But for some reason the rooms go silent and the conversation dies down when the topic of physical fitness is brought up. If the body is the temple of the living God and we are called to be stewards of all things, pastors need to take a fresh look at taking care of themselves physically.

In this episode of the podcast my friend, Greg Oraham, from Pastor Fit comes on the show to share his story. A journey that included a scare with four blocked valves in his heart that lead him to take better care of his body. Now his passion has boiled over for other pastors as he seeks to help them get healthy also. If you are going to lead a healthy church from a healthy place, you need to be healthy yourself. Don't miss this episode. It could, quite literally, save your life.

Some of our conversation boils down to:

  1. Physical fitness should be viewed as a part of your spiritual disciplines.
  2. You need to be healthy to be the best church leader you can be.
  3. Go on an evening walk after dinner. If you're married, walk with your spouse.
  4. Give up sugar. It's probably the worst thing you put in your body.

Take a listen here to episode 044 of the podcast.

Pastor Fit on Twitter

Pastor Fit website.

Pastor Fit on Instagram.

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I send a weekly email out on Friday mornings full of great content from around the web. I include a ministry leader you should be following on social media. And I throw in some other fun stuff along the way like Starbucks gift cards so you can get a cup of coffee in the morning. You can subscribe at stanrodda.com and I'll throw in my eBook for FREE as my way of saying, "Thanks."

034 - Let's Get Real

Did you know that you can buy jeans that look muddy from Neiman Marcus starting at around $350. Perhaps you've seen them on your Facebook feed recently. They are everywhere. Our society is so desperate for authenticity that we will even fake it to try and make it look real.

And this trouble isn't isolated to our society. We are society and pastors, church leaders, ministers all fall prey to fake authenticity. Because we are leading people, we want to appear to be perfect. Our Instagram feed looks like a J. Crew catalog. Our Facebook stories are the best of us. We only publish the sharpest looking 140 characters on Twitter so that no one knows we're dying on the inside.

Pastor, I want to encourage you to find someone you can be real with. Yes, we can't walk around and drop all of the worst of our lives to every barista or bank teller we meet. But we need someone we can be real with. Someone who knows what really makes our jeans muddy. What really wears us down. You need someone in your corner. Let's stop pretending as if we have it all together. 

How does this work for you? I would love to hear from you about how you handle this topic. What you find works best for authenticity or accountability for you.